What will be the biggest decision of your life?
Career?
NO.
Healthy
lifestyle? NO.
City/Country
to live in? NO.
Personal
Finance learning? NO
“The biggest decision of your
life will be who you choose to marry,” said Warren Buffett in a documentary. “There have been
two turning points in my life,” he added, “One when I came out of the womb and
one when I met Susie. What happened with me would not have happened without
her.”
He addressed the topic during a 2017 conversation with
Bill Gates at Columbia University, too –
You want to associate with people
who are the kind of person you’d like to be. You’ll move in that direction. And
the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can’t
overemphasize how important that is.
So how big and overwhelming a deal is to pick the
right spouse? Tim Urban writes in his blog Wait But Why –
…start by subtracting your age
from 90. If you live a long life, that is about the number of years you are
going to spend with your current or future life partner, give or take a few…And
when you choose a life partner, you are choosing a lot of things, including
your parenting partner, someone who will deeply influence your children, your
eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100
vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career
therapist, and someone whose day you will hear about 18,000 times.
As a culture, we spend hours upon hours developing
academic knowledge, building physical fitness, deciding where to go to college
or learning about managing our money well. But we spend little time, if any,
finding out how to make the most important decision of our lives. Because that
is what it is.
Your choice of life partner will affect the quality of
your life much more than where you go to college, what you do for a living or
where you make your home. Choosing a good spouse is by far the most important
thing in life to get right.
And the best way to get a good
spouse, Charlie Munger advises, “is to deserve a good spouse.”
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